I Do NOT Have To Move Any Faster!
Author: Keith Shaw
Article:
Copyright (c) 2009 Mind Body Spirit Central, LLC
From the person who rides your rear bumper in traffic, honking
their horn, or other people who loudly (and rudely) complain
because the line that they are standing in is moving too slowly
for them, there are some pretty impatient people in the world.
And I am sure that you encounter your "un-fair" share of them
every day.
In order to be a success in any endeavor you undertake you need
to integrate the "art" of patience into your life.
If you do not know or understand what patience is here is one
definition:
"The quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation,
annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, display of
emotion, loss of temper, irritation, or the like."
Another definition says patience is "an ability or willingness
to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with
delay."
Have we evolved into beings that have become so selfish and self
absorbed that we have forgotten about our own self control? The
ability to keep in check your mental, emotional and physical
being requires self-control. The inability to do so is a sign
that you are "out of control." When you easily lose your self
control, you will most certainly fire off outbursts of anger,
temper and blame on others.
Author Richard Rybolt said on the subject of patience, "There
will be a time when loud-mouthed, incompetent people seem to be
getting the best of you. When that happens, you only have to be
patient and wait for them to self destruct. It never fails."
Yep. And I saw it first hand while driving to work this Friday
morning. The person driving in a green Jeep behind me just
couldn't wait. He drove close behind me, flashing his headlights
for me to go faster, even though we were already doing the speed
limit. Now, the police have been watching this road carefully
over the last few weeks due to the amount of accidents and
speeding cars. And, they have even parked an un-manned marked
car in a number of spots to remind people to slow down and keep
to the speed limit. However, "Mr. Impatient" could NOT wait.
"Mr. Impatient" decides that he is going to pass me, and the
road is marked with a double-yellow line. Now every person who
has ever taken "Driving School 101" and passed their driver's
license test knows that you NEVER pass when there is a double
yellow line, right? But "Mr. Impatient" was so self-absorbed and
incompetent (when it comes to self mastery and self control)
that he did not notice the other police car that was following
right behind him! As the police car's lights activated and
flashed like the grand finale of the "Pink Floyd Laser-Light
Show" in his rear view mirror he pulled over to the side of the
road.
It is the toughest, most challenging times of crisis that decide
who the people of self (as in self absorbed) are and those of
true power. Only the threat of disaster, ruin, and
discrimination are some of the challenges in life that truly
identify those with self control from those who are self
centered and weak.
Develop a level of self awareness and wake up to the realities
of life around you. As you develop or expand on your own "art"
of patience, remember that everyone with whom you come in
contact is busy working through their own struggles, weaknesses,
setbacks, relapses, crises and obstacles to their personal
growth and recovery. All of us are on the path to personal
growth. There is no one exempt from this journey. It takes a
lifetime to complete.
When you have developed your power, you will look upon
incidents, such as having to stand in line or being late for
work, in your life as comparatively insignificant. By
comparison, the loss of your character and essence is the only
happening which can really be called a tragedy. When you have
the power of your principles you are a calm, determined,
in-control person under all circumstances - even when threatened
with the loss of every possession, even to the loss of your
reputation.
I have said that "Tolerance is a characteristic of superior self
control and patience is a hallmark of knowledge." When you
maintain your unbroken calm amid all the duties and distractions
of life you have found true power.
Work on the "art" of patience within your self and you will find
true power. And, hey "Mr. Impatient" man in the green Jeep,
enjoy your traffic ticket and the points on your license. You
could have better spent the money you will spend to cover the
traffic fine by buying my book and learning the valuable life
skill of patience.
About the author:
Keith A. Shaw is the President of
http://www.MindBodySpiritCentral.com an authority on motivation,
self improvement, success, Qigong for health and wellness. Keith
is a Motivation Guide for Self Growth, expert for
Success-Avalanche, speaker / lecturer, author of a motivational
newsletter, and a graduate of The College Of New Jersey and
Rider University. Keith has a passion for the martial arts and
is a 2nd-degree black belt.